14 June 2011

I Am Woman

A little off piste but something I've been thinking about for a while.  This post isn't aimed at anything or anyone in particular, it's just a result of several comments I've either overheard or read or been on the receiving end of at times, and it's got me thinking - in the style of Carrie Bradshaw - about what makes a woman a woman, or a girl a girl for that matter.  I wouldn't call myself a girlie girl at all, but does that make me less of a woman?  For example:

I don't wear pink. 
I don't bake (cupcakes actually irritate me). 
I hate going to the hairdressers. 
I would rather pull out my eyelashes than have to sit through The Notebook again.
I don't wear much jewellery.
Not once in my life have I worried about whether or not my bum looks big in something.
I've never read a book by Marian Keyes, Cecelia Ahern, Jodi Picoult or similar.
I've never coloured my hair (save for about 5 highlights ten years ago).
I don't know how to curl my hair.
I've never used fake tan.
I hate the smell of jasmine, much preferring woodsmoke, leather and petrol.
I couldn't care less about any man or woman seeing me without a scrap of make up on.
I want smaller boobs.
I do not enjoy Valentine's Day.
I often prefer a pint to a spritzer.

I appreciate that all of those things are very much at the superficial end of what it might mean to be a girl, but I'm surprised at how many of those things cause people to judge me, even for just a second.  I've never worried about what other people think of me, and don't at all now, but it still never fails to amaze me (read: piss me off) when people raise their eyebrows if I order a Peroni rather than a Pinio, or eat a burger rather than a salad.

None of these things should define a person, woman or man, but so many people still seem to think they do.

I know I'm not alone in this at all, and I'd be interested to  know what makes you feel like a woman, apart of course from being better drivers and fabulous multi-taskers :)


  1. Really interesting post. I think its all about how you feel inside. You sound like a really confident woman. I would love to never worry if my bum looks big etc and i spend far too much time applying fake tan, curling my hair etc but to be honest i enjoy it and i t makes me feel good.
    Saying that i have friends who never wear makeup or do any of the girly things that i do and they are still very sexy confident women.
    The world would be very boring if we were all the same xx

  2. A thought-provoking post. I'm not really a girlie-girl. I do wear pink occasionally, but like you I'm more likely to order a pint than some frothy creation. I prefer the company of men to women most of the time, as I swear like a navvy and call a spade a spade. I guess what makes me a woman is my soft side - I might talk like a man sometimes but I have the heart of a woman.

  3. Im all woman BUT I hate pink, dont do hugs or kisses, not fond of children.... Cant be arsed with diets and am blunter than the bluntest thing going.

    What makes me a woman, I don't know, but Ill tell you when I find out ,-)


    Great post.